BecomingaMan
WHAT IF THE INTENTION WAS CONNECTION INSTEAD OF COMPLIANCE?
Fatherhood is an invitation—not only to raise a boy, but to become more intentional about the man you are while raising him. This work is about stepping away from the pressure for compliance and perfection and making connection the priority. It is an opportunity to slow down, question what you were taught about fatherhood and masculinity, and choose—moment by moment—how you want your son to experience you.
Because long after childhood ends, he will carry with him not only what you taught him, but how it felt to be your son—and much of what he learned from watching you about how to be in relationship with himself, with others, and with the world.
Explore ongoing group membership, group plus private coaching, and focused 1:1 support for fathers.
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Interactive workshops for parents, schools, and community organizations centered on communication, emotional intelligence, healthy boundaries, and raising grounded young men.
Guidance and resources for parents, mentors, and leaders interested in creating a Becoming a Man community grounded in shared practice, honest conversation, and meaningful connection.
Ready for support that meets your family where you are?
Let’s begin with a conversation about what would be most helpful.
Choose the Level of Support That Meets You Where You Are
Becoming the father—and the man—you want to be isn’t something you have to figure out alone.
These offerings create spaces for fathers to slow down, practice, be challenged, receive support, and build more intentional relationships with their sons. Whether you’re looking for an ongoing community of men, individualized coaching, or concentrated support through a particular challenge, there is a place to begin.
Group Coaching + Community
A consistent space for fathers who want to keep practicing the work of connected, intentional fatherhood.
This isn’t about learning how to make your son more compliant or becoming a perfect parent. It’s a place to bring the real moments—the conflict, disconnection, frustration, uncertainty, repair, and joy—and practice responding differently.
Your membership includes:
- Two 2-hour live group coaching & practice calls each week
- Join the calls that work for your schedule
- Live coaching, reflection, discussion, and practical exercises
- A private WhatsApp community for connection and support between calls
- A private Facebook group for resources, conversations, and continued learning
- A community of fathers committed to making connection the priority
Come as you are. Bring what is happening in your relationship with your son. Practice becoming the father you want him to experience.
$50/month • Ongoing monthly membership. Cancel anytime
Group Membership + Private Coaching
For fathers who want the community and ongoing practice of the group plus dedicated individual support.
You receive everything included in The Practice, along with private space to explore your own patterns, challenges, relationships, and growth more deeply.
Your membership includes:
- Two 2-hour group coaching & practice calls each week
- Two private 60-minute 1:1 coaching sessions each month
- Private WhatsApp community
- Private Facebook group
- Group practice, resources, and ongoing support
Your individual sessions give us room to slow down and look specifically at you—your relationship with your son, what activates you, what you inherited from your own upbringing, where connection is breaking down, and the man and father you are choosing to become.
$250/month • Ongoing monthly membership. Cancel anytime
Focused 1:1 Fatherhood Coaching
Sometimes you don’t need more information.
You need space.
Space to slow everything down, understand what is happening beneath the surface, and receive focused support around what matters most.
The Intensive is a private coaching experience for fathers who are navigating a significant challenge, feeling disconnected from their son, moving through a transition, or simply ready to go much deeper into their own fatherhood.
The Intensive includes:
- Four private 2-hour coaching sessions
- Eight hours of focused, individualized coaching
- Deep exploration of your relationship with your son
- Identification of inherited patterns and automatic responses
- Personalized practices for connection, communication, boundaries, and repair
- Space to explore the man you are—and the man you want your son to experience
This is not about fixing your son.
It is an opportunity to look deeply at the relationship, your role within it, and what becomes possible when you begin showing up with greater presence, clarity, and intention.
$1,250 • Four private 2-hour sessions
The goal isn't perfect fatherhood.
It’s a relationship your son doesn’t have to recover from.
It’s becoming someone he can trust, know, disagree with, learn from, and stay connected to.
And it’s giving him something even bigger:
an example of the kind of man he might someday choose to become.
Boys are told what not to become while receiving conflicting messages about what it means to be a man.
Culture critiques toxic masculinity endlessly, yet offers young men almost nothing to replace what it tears down. No framework. No mentorship. No path forward.
Without a clear framework, many young men grow up searching for identity, purpose, and belonging in all the wrong places. Some suppress their emotions. Others mistake performance for worth or dominance for strength. Many simply drift, hoping maturity will arrive with age.
How do we solve this problem?
Boys need mentorship, support, and adults who embody the values they hope to pass on. Grounded men are shaped through intentional practice, meaningful relationships, and the courage to keep growing.
Becoming a Man offers a practical, principle-based path forward. Through guided practices, journaling prompts, and honest reflection, it helps boys develop emotional integration, self-awareness, grounded strength, and the capacity to lead with kindness rather than dominance.
Unlike traditional workbooks designed for solo completion, Becoming a Man is intentionally designed to be experienced in relationship. It is a workbook meant to be led by a trusted adult, mentor, coach, parent, or fellow journeyer who walks alongside the participant—not as someone with all the answers, but as a participant as well.
Inside the book
Practical tools. Real conversations. Lasting formation.
The workbook format is designed to be practiced – not simply read. Each principle invites reflection, conversation, and real-life application.
Guided Reflection
The Daily Practice
2 Reflect
3 Journal
4 Practice
5 Repeat
6 Embody
A Shared Journey
“Manhood isn’t an arrival. It’s a lifelong practice”
THE FIVE PRINCIPLES
The five principles are the foundation of this work because they represent qualities that influence every area of life—from how we relate to ourselves and others, to how we lead, love, work, and serve.
No single principle stands alone. Each one strengthens and supports the others.
Presence
I am fully here.
Purpose
I am driven by meaning.
Proactivity
I take initiative.
Provision
I provide value.
Clarity
I express who I truly am.
You do not have to have all the answers.
This book gives you a shared language, practical tools, and meaningful moments to walk alongside the young man in your life.
Bring Becoming a Man to Your Community
Boys benefit from more than guidance—they benefit from being surrounded by adults who are willing to walk alongside them.
If you’re interested in creating a Becoming a Man community in your area, I’d love to support you. Reach out for guidance, resources, and opportunities to bring boys, parents, and mentors together around the principles of Becoming a Man.
Walk with him. Guide him. Believe in him. Help him become.
Helping raise a generation of grounded, emotionally healthy men.
I didn’t write Becoming a Man because I believe boys need to be fixed. I wrote it because I believe boys deserve to be supported and mentored.
For more than twenty years, I’ve spent my professional life helping physicians make life-changing medical decisions. Alongside that career, I’ve immersed myself in the study of human flourishing, emotional intelligence, trauma, secure attachment, embodiment, and what truly allows people to thrive.
But the greatest education of my life has been raising my two sons.
Like every parent, I’ve wrestled with questions that don’t come with a manual.
- How do I help my boys become strong without becoming hardened?
- How do I teach confidence without entitlement?
- How do I raise men who know how to lead, love, protect, communicate, and remain deeply connected to themselves?
Questions like these became an obsession.
Over the years, I read hundreds of books, attended countless trainings, earned a Master’s Degree in Happiness Studies, became a trauma-informed coach, and explored disciplines ranging from psychology and neuroscience to mindfulness, somatic practices, and emotional development.
What I discovered was surprising.
Very few resources cater to young men in their transition to manhood or teach self-awareness and self-discovery, without performace. I saw a need for a rite of passage – a way for adults to guide and support our boys to cultivate and practice the skills and qualities to become a grounded, solid man.
That’s why I created Becoming a Man.
This workbook isn’t about perfection. It isn’t about outdated ideas of masculinity. And it certainly isn’t about telling boys who they should be.
It’s about giving them practical tools to feel grounded, emotionally intelligent, courageous, responsible, and deeply authentic.
My hope is that every boy who works through these pages discovers that manhood isn’t something you stumble into with age. It’s something you practice.
And my hope for every parent, mentor, teacher, coach, grandfather, or trusted adult is that this workbook creates conversations that might otherwise never happen.
Because I believe boys become great men through consistent guidance, meaningful challenge, honest reflection, and adults who choose to walk beside them.
If this workbook helps even one young man become a little more present, a little more courageous, and a little more aligned with who he truly is, then every hour spent creating it will have been worth it.
Thank you for being part of that journey.